tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post27030069422541550..comments2024-02-07T09:13:36.511+01:00Comments on Feel my pulse and tell me what it reads.: Honestly... would you?P.E.T. Projectshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-83507941170749835812011-10-01T02:23:17.437+01:002011-10-01T02:23:17.437+01:00"...I’m still not sure I can." Truth be ..."...I’m still not sure I can." Truth be told, many will say otherwise, however, assessing a situation is (very much) different from being an active participant in it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-19330097740640339332011-09-07T22:19:11.304+01:002011-09-07T22:19:11.304+01:00mehn.. I try not to think about it happening after...mehn.. I try not to think about it happening after marriage.. it is tought - but like everything else the God we serve gives us grace sufficient for each day and will not bring anything our way we cannot conquer..<br /><br />as for cobhams and his wife.. he serves the lord.. and God has given him his reward and many more to come.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-33571052863424524802011-08-25T18:30:31.958+01:002011-08-25T18:30:31.958+01:00@PET, sorry for d long comment o. Its almost more ...@PET, sorry for d long comment o. Its almost more than your post itself :-)Bisinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-85584420331470285312011-08-25T18:27:08.682+01:002011-08-25T18:27:08.682+01:00Hmn, I'm liking dis post o. Its gona be diffic...Hmn, I'm liking dis post o. Its gona be difficult no doubt but as Gbemi said, d only reason we're particular is bcos physical disabilities are obvious as opposed to other types of issues pple go thru.<br />Another thing I noticed is most pple commented while assuming they wuld b the ones without disabilities (God forbid) bt y'all should imagine urselves being d disabled person, wat would your expectations be? & hw would u take it?<br />I have a friend who's new on blogville & is on wheelchair. She's probably not gona like dis so I'm using my name instead of signing in. She however is the happiest person I know & hilariously funny too. She doesn't have a problem with herself & u can totally tell wen u relate with her. She's sooo pretty too & wuld probably av been a bad*ss if she was walking. She's dated a lot & u'll b surprised at d rate she gets "scopers"<br />She got paraplegic when she was 15 & in second school. She wasn't very serious in second sch bt afta a long stay @d hospital for d issue (docs still dnt knw exactly wat caused it) she went to Uni, was one of d best in her class, has masters (phd grade) & is currently trying to start her phd(she schooled in naija o, so it wasn't easy)<br />D girl is awesome & has achieved even more than myself. She's a gr8 source of inspiration to me & a lot of others.<br />She's sassy & has a smart mouth bt absolutely lovable. She's currently single bt I don't think she will be for long<br />Oh my, can't bliv I went on for dat long. Point is, never say never cos it could b you.<br /><br />I'm loving your blog & may God help usOlabisinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-88930926581593130942011-08-22T16:18:02.003+01:002011-08-22T16:18:02.003+01:00A-9ja-Great: truely very difficult
LOL: *smile* T...A-9ja-Great: truely very difficult<br /><br />LOL: *smile* Thanks Miss/Mr LOL<br /><br />Gbemisoke: Now thats real love on display.<br />And you're right, mental/spiritual disability is worse!P.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-4497228383298976512011-08-16T17:07:32.310+01:002011-08-16T17:07:32.310+01:00Life...
Many times, I've said "I can neve...Life...<br />Many times, I've said "I can never" only to go on and act differently, so I've learnt to never say never.<br /><br />My dad's leg was amputated after he was shot by robbers. Years later, he told my mum how much he appreciated her for standing by him when he lost not just a limb, but his business and self esteem.<br /><br />He told her that if she was the one all those things had happened to, he wasn't sure if he would've stayed. <br /><br />I don't know what I would do either. I just know that God won't give us more than we can bear. <br />Everybody has issues. The thing with physical disabililties is just that they are obvious. Many people look alright on the outside but have serious emotional and/or spiritual issues. Those ones are probably worse.<br />God help usGbemisokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14429615134179217426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-62916866252760021492011-08-16T10:28:59.009+01:002011-08-16T10:28:59.009+01:00ANONYMOUS, i accept your apology,but the hostess w...ANONYMOUS, i accept your apology,but the hostess was not the one that replied you, that was a wrong assumption,please apologize to her also.<br /><br />update?LOLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-49718680291930870922011-08-16T10:16:22.513+01:002011-08-16T10:16:22.513+01:00Truth is,there are questions that can't be sin...Truth is,there are questions that can't be sincerely answered until you're faced with the situation first hand.Right now i can't tell you whether i can or i can't,but all i know is that it's going to be a very difficult situation.A-9ja-Greathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05001926648395384599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-74263861763986175522011-08-16T09:41:49.285+01:002011-08-16T09:41:49.285+01:00Daughter of Her King: Thanks for ur contributionDaughter of Her King: Thanks for ur contributionP.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-3182916424913992952011-08-15T22:54:37.654+01:002011-08-15T22:54:37.654+01:00So I will use the special needs term rather than d...So I will use the special needs term rather than disability. <br /><br />I think living abroad helps u to appreciate, u can fall in love with anyone with situation. Really, the culture here is, disability is not an issue no matter how severe ... (I watch alot documentaries and I know stuff).<br /><br />Having said that, life overhere is alot more bearable than in less developed countries. The infrastructure in developed countries e.g. UK ensures anyone with severe special needs have access to the state funds and 24 hour carer, E.g. cerebral palsy etc.<br /><br />I would like to think am not bothered about it, I have thought and spoken with God about it. I am sure I have thought about my hubby feeling dependable or me perhaps. Even though I will get scared, I still know there is grace and it is sufficient.<br /><br />About getting married and coping with a partner that has special needs can be tough but it is doable. WHY: U said through health and sickness I will stick by you. I can't say it wont be hard, it wont be frustrating, it wont be emotionally, mentally draining etc. But it doesn't stop there, there is strength, there is hope, there is love and there is GOD and that my peeps is the joy of my strength. Besides, I am a motivational freak it is a gift, I cant stop being encouraging, will always remain faithful by the GRACE OF MY FATHER.<br /><br />I am sure any person born with severe special needs or made like that wishes it upon themselves but life continues. I used to have a lecturer who suffers severe arthritis, he is on a wheel chair and he jokes about it.. (In fact he tells us about his shopping spree with his kids, self -confident dude.<br /><br />As I say we are all created in the image of God. Which makes me think that there must be different sides to creation.. Anyhoo my imagination can run wild.<br /><br />Whatever happens life is still life.<br /><br />I pray God will teach us in ways we are yet to be taught.Daughter of Her Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13153158836293987110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-26728912359576702202011-08-15T16:02:14.834+01:002011-08-15T16:02:14.834+01:00Kitkat: I have heard that God will never bring you...Kitkat: I have heard that God will never bring you to it if HE doesnt have plans of bringing you through it... I know this for sure so fret not.<br /><br />Mikki: To each his own... hmmpph!<br /><br />Deolascope: Well summarised!P.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-25546680321176608762011-08-15T14:48:19.840+01:002011-08-15T14:48:19.840+01:00Dayor: Thanks, I also know first hand what it is t...Dayor: Thanks, I also know first hand what it is to care for someone with disability so im not writing based on imagination!<br /><br />Dosh: You understand the point im trying to make.<br /><br />Omoba-Adeteju: Noted! Being a min hope all's well.<br /><br />Ginger: I think this kind of disability is even worse than physical disability. Imagine having to drag a partner everytime something important is to be done. That's going to just leave you psychologically tired!P.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-49031738534295502532011-08-13T16:05:02.706+01:002011-08-13T16:05:02.706+01:00Getting married to a man or woman living with a di...Getting married to a man or woman living with a disability is a dicey one, especially for one living without a physical disability. But we must consider two things:<br />1. Is someone living with a disability not worthy of having a life partner. What could be going on in the mind of such a person regarding marriage?<br />2. What if you get married to someone without a physical disability and somewhere along the line, say very early in the marriage, the person has an accident that leaves him with a permanent disability?<br />That is why it is so important to love one's partner for who they are not for what they look like because a fire, an accident, an illness..... could take away some of those physical attributes.deolascopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988974437756944439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-65699378664522344452011-08-12T05:23:31.874+01:002011-08-12T05:23:31.874+01:00Wow. I don't know what I would do. It's li...Wow. I don't know what I would do. It's like saying would you jump out of a burning building.. Ofcourse I would say no but who knows what would happen if I was put in such a situation (God Forbid). It really does depend on the state of the relationship before such an accident. Was he caring, was he committed, were you committed etc. <br /><br />A perfect example is given in the movie Diary of a Mad Black Woman. Even though the guy saw the error of his ways I think she was right not to go back to him (although our culture would be in total disagreement). I think too each his own.<br /><br />http://www.mikkisoxtra.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457985971554698831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-64005026144953704582011-08-12T05:22:22.660+01:002011-08-12T05:22:22.660+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457985971554698831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-84313153467541130662011-08-09T09:25:27.897+01:002011-08-09T09:25:27.897+01:00i dont think i'm brave enough to live with som...i dont think i'm brave enough to live with someone with a major disability. it doesnt make me a bad person (i can help in my own little way), but i'm jst not tough or patient enough or the job. Kudos to those who are.kitkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06768682440881142726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-68880171066795570932011-07-30T19:52:47.180+01:002011-07-30T19:52:47.180+01:00A lack of passion for life is a disability in my e...A lack of passion for life is a disability in my eyes and I will not marry anyone who doesnt have that.<br /><br />I havent had a close experience of someone who married some with disability but i have seen stories from the Western world which leave me in awae. God bless us as we try to show love the way he taught us.<br /><br />GingerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-76643444569008438442011-07-29T12:08:10.651+01:002011-07-29T12:08:10.651+01:00I was totally shocked when I read anonymous' f...I was totally shocked when I read anonymous' first comments....<br />@ P.E.T.PROJECTS: Your blog is your world where you have freedom of speech and thoughts. There was no condemnation in this particular post as alleged by Anonymous.<br />Never expect all comments to be polite and nice, expect the nasty ones but make sure you do not get discouraged one bit. Understand that all humans are patterned out differently.<br />Lastly, its obvious that Anonymous later realised his/her mistakes from the comments and also apologised, so pls P.E.T PROJECTS, accept his/her apologies...<br />Keep up the good work!!!omoba-adeteju!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04321003575073058958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-55815391910477309562011-07-27T16:57:41.583+01:002011-07-27T16:57:41.583+01:00Thinking about it on the surface, i'm tempted ...Thinking about it on the surface, i'm tempted to scream "NO" but the truth is we don't pick the people we fall in love with. I think that if i fell in love with someone with a disability i would sooooo marry him<br /><br />BUT! if we were already in love before he became disabled then wahala go dey o cos 1. i may not be able to handle it 2.it may change his perception on alot of things, thereby change his personality, thereby make me fall out of love with him.<br /><br />But who knows? The prayer is for God to bless us with the wisdom to make the right decisions in lifedoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08405688223583090463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-69568612401864746182011-07-26T15:21:42.756+01:002011-07-26T15:21:42.756+01:00I just saw @anonymous' first comment and since...I just saw @anonymous' first comment and sincerely I think you came off on a wrong note, from what I read..@PETproject Wasn't trying to put anyone down. Remember I said Ojuola is my cousin and I probably should have stayed mute on this matter, but then I have also met Cobhams and I think you can never find a better person that has turned a 'disadvantage' into a great deal...and guess what? He is probably living making his mark in life better than most of us<br /><br />But I have also been in an example of "life turns". My father suddenly fell ill after like 26 years of marriage to my mum, d sickness left a minor disability (thank God he's a lot better now) and some how it was a lot of hardwork taking care of him, esp at that time<br /><br />So I totally agree with @PETproject when she said "People need grace to accept and care for the disabled just as they need grace to pull through difficult times!And yes, its a big deal to show love unconditionally not everyone can!" <br /><br />So dear @anonymous: I think youread a different meaning to an innocent post.<br /><br />Truth is; life is life, and whether we want to accept it or not, it turns and it hands different stuffs to different peeps. We all just need to continually pray to see the good side of life and ask for grace to cope with the "not-so-good" ones<br /><br />My opinioindayorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04464749657251751761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-27731518780130279352011-07-26T14:57:52.400+01:002011-07-26T14:57:52.400+01:00Anonymous: You're back again? FYI in blogsvill...Anonymous: You're back again? FYI in blogsville, royalties do not accrue for the comments on each post, when then would I comment as LOL on my e-space.<br />Think about it, and try to move on!P.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-10046803137360865252011-07-26T14:52:55.252+01:002011-07-26T14:52:55.252+01:00Dear Anonymous,
People need grace to accept and ca...Dear Anonymous,<br />People need grace to accept and care for the disabled just as they need grace to pull through difficult times!<br />And yes, its a big deal to show love unconditionally not everyone can!<br /><br /><br />LOL: You got be cracking up with the 'congo shinning' bit. Its good to see that someone understands the point thats being made. <br /><br /><br />You've summed the entire post up in that paragraph, I wish Anonymous would read it and understand that this is not a gender issue.P.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-10659687729926807872011-07-26T13:45:35.242+01:002011-07-26T13:45:35.242+01:00hahahaha! LOL, are u sure u r not PET writing as a...hahahaha! LOL, are u sure u r not PET writing as a man?<br /><br />OK, make una no vex o. I must have come off on a wrong note. No, I am not in any way disabled but I have taken care of people with special needs, and some of the comments came out a tad bit insensitive. Again, my apologies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-35332536181071595012011-07-26T08:07:47.854+01:002011-07-26T08:07:47.854+01:00why so much bitterness ANONYMOUS?
like you said,...why so much bitterness ANONYMOUS? <br /><br />like you said, EVERYBODY SHOULD SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES, which i believe everyone had done!<br /><br />so was your problem?<br /><br />your comments alone had shown either you are disabled or taking care of one! if so, my apologies because no pun intended here, but don't take it out on people who simply expressed their feelings which might not augur well with you! <br /><br />i had taken care of sick people and it's no joke! it takes toil emotionally and physically! if the disability occurred during marriage or courtship, then i would stay but if i had seen the disability before embarking on the relationship,then it's my choice ALONE to make! love is sweet but it can turn sour when the trials or stress becomes too much!<br /><br /> if i decided to marry a blind spouse, then there must be a 'catch! it is either there are people around to help when she is pregnant and i have the resources to look after her because i won't expect her to work! or for a lady that agreed to marry a guy with a spinal cord injury, she would definitely ask if his 'congo is still shining?' because sex is important in a marriage but children optional. <br /><br /> if this disability occurred when the couples are married,then it is WRONG for any spouse to jump ship! because it is for better for worst!<br /><br />........my 2naira!LOLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-575987551801710444.post-63443092325785174092011-07-26T02:28:38.697+01:002011-07-26T02:28:38.697+01:00When reality dawn how? So when reality dawns, what...When reality dawn how? So when reality dawns, what to do? Run? Everybody should speak for themselves and don't assume people who are shouting 'love CONQUERS all' don't know what they're saying. Nobody has special grace to take care of 'disabled' people. Sometimes, things happen and you just find the strength within you to love and help the person. It's not about any reality dawning. Only the fickle-minded will think it is such a big deal. If you're perfect physically and mentally, thank God and pray you will always remain so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com