Monday, June 20, 2011

Private Space: Keep Off




Sometimes I just want to put up a sign saying 'Private Space, Keep Off', probably put it up on the wall just above my chair in the office; unfortunately, there's no assurance people would respect it.


They seem to be everywhere these days. People whose stock in trade is to butt into other people's business. A lady has a right to her space, her time, her privacy.


The other day I rearranged my drawer at work. I moved the provisions to the top drawer; that's the one with the key. Files now occupy the last drawer.


Prior to now I had my stash of provision in the last drawer - biscuits, milk, sugar, corn flakes, cashew nuts etc. They were there to save me from starving on those days I get too busy to step out for lunch. I would freely share these things with those who ask, however recently, some people have been helping themselves to it just cause they know where to find it. They've become so confident that they emptied a 450g of milk in the 2 weeks I was away from work! Isn't taking someone's belonging without their consent stealing???


Provision pilfering is the least of it, there are space invaders everywhere - in church, even in the family. Big aunties and uncles who 'care' so much all they want to do is hook you up with one of the 'old boys'' son just so they can brag about it later! How dare they reel out the story of my life just because they were opportuned to be there when I was born?!



Oh Sister Church leader, yes you're the parish pastor's wife and your ministry involves caring for all; have you ever wondered if I’m in a relationship with someone outside the Parish???


If you're not sure you should have asked instead of assuming my love life needed intervention! So you've decided to 'collabo' with your husband and you think the cell leader is right for me? Haaa..... Good choice, he's a 'loaded', spirit-filled brother after all; but shouldn't you have told me before giving him my 'case file'?


Ahem... Bro Spirikoko a.k.a Cell/House fellowship leader; but why now? They gave you my number and you just called and started 'famzing'. Its 2011 oh and the rules have changed; you should have considered the fact that we've never said a word to each other in over 10years we've been at this parish; shouldn't the close to 20years age difference set off an alarm in your head? Anyways, just so you know, I’m not in need of a sugar daddy; please pass the message across to Parish Pastor and his wife!


These space invaders need to lose my contact fast, it’s becoming appalling.

Rant over, I’ve got to get back to work, have a fulfilling week y’all!

22 comments:

lani said...

lol .... I hope you said it politely to the cell leader

haveagreatweek

@ilola said...

Awwww sorrryyy. I really feel your pain on both instances. Kai, it can be really painful.
Personall, I hate people touching my things so I don't even put stuffs where people have access to it, in order to eliminate chances of fight.
As for the relationship one, please handle it with care. Some people are just overzealous.
P.S: we have missed you

DIDI said...

Jeez i feel your pain, i think its time you voice out to those who finished that milk within that short time,that is privilege escalation. To the "cell leader" i guess a U need to sit him down,show him what date and time it is so he knows things have changed. The parish pastor and his wife are invading your privacy,i don`t know the kind of relationship you have with them but even if u were their daughter, Privacy invasion is a CRIME punishable by Law.

Tamunoibifiri Mobolaji-Kamson said...

Sorry dearie...
I wonder why people just take people's stuff without asking.
People never mind themselves when it comes to relationships especially in church. don't let it get to you. just calm down and politely ignore them.
www.secretlilies.blogspot.com

Prism of an immigrant said...

Which kind thing be this. SMH at those your co-workers. THey should be punished, for real.

About those people who try to hook up every single person they know, some people do with out of genuine concern :-/

Have a nice week too.

A-9ja-Great said...

Aw dear,sorry about those people who decided to piss you off.Really sometimes you just wanna put up a sign that says "Keep Off",actually mine is "Piss off" cos people just poke their nose sometimes where they are not needed.Just take it easy though.

Lara said...

Lol @ Bro Spirikoko...
Seriously, I feel you and it really gets annoying...nowadays, i hardly talk to my cousins because all the ask is the man and then they go ahead to start talking about broda lagbaja, broda tamedu who is not a bad choice.

Enjoy your week and biko don't let this people ruin your mood.

Lara said...

Lol @ Bro Spirikoko...
Seriously, I feel you and it really gets annoying...nowadays, i hardly talk to my cousins because all the ask is the man and then they go ahead to start talking about broda lagbaja, broda tamedu who is not a bad choice.

Enjoy your week and biko don't let this people ruin your mood.

N.I.L (Naijamum in London) said...

Welcome back....

Please take it easy. Stealing people's stuff is a NO NO.

However, people who want to set you up with someone MIGHT genuinely have best intentions.

Take care

Anonymous said...

Really good post!

kitkat said...

lol welcome back! i hate people that poke their nose into my business when they are clearly not invited to state their opinion. sowi about the itchy fingers that cnt stay away from ur stuff lol

Myne Whitman said...

if they finished your milk in your absence, that's definitely stealing. SMH, I will speak out if it were me sha.

Gbemisoke said...

yay!! she's baaaaaacccckkkk!!!

close to 20 years age difference?! Perhaps you should start calling him "uncle". Let's hope he'll get the message ;o)

P.E.T. Projects said...

Iani: Oh yes, I was polite with a touch of sarcasm though!

@ilola: i'm not down with peeps touching my stuff too but i've always been generous with food however they took it too far this time!

Didi: the parish pastor has adorable children that im really close to guess they must have thought they needed to fast track the process of getting my own kids ASAP. lol
As for the purnishment by law, are you a learned colleague?

Ibifiri: Thanks dear, will do

Prism: Genuine concern .... maybe

Lara: Ahh, you know exactly how it works. But there's no one capable of turning my raggae into blue!

P.E.T. Projects said...

9ja Great: Yeah, PISS OFF may just be apt!

N.I.L: Genuine intentions should be with acceptable options and my consent shouldnt it?

Kitkat: Thanks dear; i've put in place a permanent solution to their itchy fingers.

Myne: I thot about it too but decided to keep my cool, replace it and wait until the next time they come over for some and I can refuse with a big smile!

Gbemisoke: Yep, im back! I didnt even think about that, i should have! It would have driven the message home.... chessy

LG said...

err.. babes pls can i have dat urm..... Bro Spirikoko a.k.a Cell/House fellowship leader number????
LMAO



btw hv u cn my mail?

P.E.T. Projects said...

LG: Bro Spirikoko's number coming right through. Yes, I've replied oh

aeWHYoh: Fellow Writer said...

Ahaha @ your response to Myne >> Refuse with a big smile. Yeah, privacy invaders piss me off too, you're not the only one. Church is always funny, always mistaking caring with poking your nose into someone's business. Sad!

Chizy K said...

don't think u can do away with em no matter how u try, its naija culture to b in ur business. No doubt it disgusts me as well

P.E.T. Projects said...

aeWHYoo: You get the point!

ChizyK: I know, but im just pissed off sometimes!

Ginger said...

Welcome back PET!
Wish you could get your hand at the office 's CCTV if there is any. I keep thinking about the people who took the last spoonfuls, didnt they realise by then that there was something wrong? na wa!

Sorry about the wrong hook up. It can be soo annoying. And today if you leave the church they'll be wondering why....

singlenigerian said...

LOL @ files in bottom drawer, food in top drawer with key.. As for the church hookups, na God go help person. They take the one big family to extreme lengths sometimes.