Friday, May 11, 2012

Create your own rules!


‘At your age, I had had you and all your siblings’!
By now you should be married with kids or in the least, have a steady relationship’!
‘You shouldn’t have to work for someone all your life, many of your classmates are now business owners’!
Words…
Words that depress some and make others cry. From mothers to peers and even strangers; people drawing the schedule for the lives of others!
WARNING: Do not use my watch to set your time!

There is enough pressure in the world, enough to make you lose your mind if you’re not determined. No one should ever be subjected to the catch up race. We all have goals we strive to achieve; asides from God and hard work, all other factors are relative.

It is sad to see how many people are driven off the cliff by standards set by a group of mostly faceless people. Young men and women trying so hard to conform just so they can fit into an already disjointed society!

We must look within ourselves and find what truly makes us happy and fulfilled. Most times, our friends and families do not understand what our innermost desires are. Do not be surprised if their actions, inactions or reactions all aim either consciously or unconsciously at sabotaging your goals.

Keeping up with the Joneses only leads to an endless rat race, the rat eventually gets eaten up by the cat! It is important to be abreast with what obtains in one’s area(s) of interest, infact identifying, understudying and learning from others is highly encouraged but know where to draw the line.

No two persons are exactly the same; while some go through life with ease, getting everything on a platter of gold; others have to put in a lot more effort. In the end, victory is all that matters but be careful of whom you allow to influence you.

No rule says you must be married at 30, girls are children too, we can’t all be size 10, not everyone would succeed as an entrepreneur, there’s life outside the oil industry, owning a house is good; but for some, renting an apartment is better! There is no universal scale for measuring success, or is there?

Traditions are belief systems created by a few people and transmitted from generation to generation, times are changing; don’t let irrelevant things hold you down! Success is achieved only after some rules (mostly norms) are broken, heck, some rules are made to be broken!

Serve God, work hard, improve your skills and personality, make good friends, be true to yourself and watch all things fall in place in the end.
Have a wonderful weekend!

25 comments:

@ilola said...

After they pressure you and you make a decision that backfires, all the people that pressured will be nowhere to be found ooo. Thats how it always plays out.

Abeg, let everyone hold their peace

Myne Whitman said...

There is certainly no universal rules to life. Not that community or social life is bad, but we should more live as an individual and learn to celebrate ourselves.

Toinlicious said...

"Serve God, work hard, improve your skills & personality, make good friends, be true to yourself & watch all things fall into place" I have nothing to add :)

Unveilinggold said...

Lady awesome piece I must say...Love it..I mean some people dont know you innermost desire but think they know whats best for you based on where they are coming from..I understand parents have the best interest but sometimes they even let you explore compared to poeple who dont truly know you or dont want to..

Thanks for sharing...love love it..Long time no blog :)

N.I.L (Naijamum in London) said...

Thanks for sharing
The only thing I have to add to your end note is 'Be nice'
Hope all is well with you?

Blessing said...

AMEN!!! AMEN!!! AMEN!!!

Preach my sista!
You are so right jare...everyone should keep their rules to themselves...in my life, my motto is "Jesu lo ni final say" everyone else can take a sit!

singlenigerian said...

This same thing had me stewing for a bit yesterday. Well and Truly Spoken.

singlenigerian said...

This same thing had me stewing for a bit yesterday. Well and Truly Spoken.

9jaFOODie said...

Very well written. "We must look within ourselves and find what truly makes us happy and fulfilled" that said it all for me. Thanks for sharing!!!

DIDI said...

100000000000000000000% on Point.

'Lara said...

I make my own rules and this post is so on point.

o25 said...

From the opening statements...ur point of view and constructive arguments..u deconstruct and demystify all the plantiffs claims..if I where the judge I'd dismiss all charges immediately and order full payment in damages such that all would think thrice before making any further accusation *bbm angel smiley* iRest iRise #case dismissed#

Took me a while to read but wen I spared 5secs to read d intro on my feedburner I was more than fascinated...n marked it a must-read, no disappointments at all now that I have. Great start and even superb ending!

Luciano said...

wise words

A-9ja-Great said...

This post is so on point.We shouldn't allow ourselves to be pressured into doing the wrong thing or running a stupid rat race.

DIDI said...

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jhazmyn said...

So on point oh, after all is said and done, each one has his/her own unique race to run

toeseen said...

Tell them let them hear,'serve God, work hard, be true to yourself'-these are the most important things #true talk my sister.

*Michael Onobote* said...

This has been on my mind for a while now too. So many things and questions that try to add uneccessary pressure on you. Know your God, know yourself!

Okeoghene said...

Spot on. Gbam

Daughter of Her King said...

Well said.. Hopefully people will get it...

angelsbeauty said...

I think the society is so disjointed now that even normal and sane people are beginning to feel abnormal and insane.. good post.

deddyboy said...

Traditions are the shackles that constantly lead us to our slaughter house. I have developed a conscious effort to always ask myself why i do everything i do, it is not an easy task. but this has helped me.

Ginger said...

I love Deddyboy's comment - I have developed a conscious effort to always ask myself why i do everything i do. I think that's key to doing things with the right motives.

Great post PET.

Singlenaijamum said...

@ P.E.T., Word! How i wish my Aunty could get to read this!

aeWHYoh said...

Woot woot! "Write your own story...it's all invented anyways." These are sentiments expressed in a book I just finished reading. I love this!